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    I Have Returned! 4 years later i think a re-introduction is a must!!

    I have completely fallen off the face of the scrap business a few years ago. I had a partner that i was working with and he had everything from down to the contracts of properties under his name to all of the customers that he had and also contracts he had they only knew about him and delt' with him himself. The twist is that I had done all the work to keep the company running and kept everything on time and managed most of it on my own besides the customers and also the paper work.
    I was bitter about it for a while because i made all that he took away from me in .5 of a second compared to the 2 years that i put into the company and into myself. A few years down the road I'm back and i want to start something of my own. I am a mother of one little boy and I want to teach him my ways and show him that he can take any road he wants.
    As I'm already in classes for human services, I'm a Jack of all sorts of trades and also some other things up my sleeve and I will rise up to the top again. The first few things i got to get taken care of is getting my truck on the road!
    The reason I came back to this page is because i remembered all the help and the tips that are on here and all of the helpful people that i would talk to! I NEED to come back to this and give myself something to do. As I'm a stay at home mom right now... and many people doubt me now because I haven't been much into the active lifestyle that i had a few years ago... All because i needed to lick my wounds and let them heal from the s*** show that I had a few years ago it really made me doubt myself and so on.
    P.S. I was 18-19 then now I'm 22. I know i was so young but it seems so long ago since then!
    Thank you for reading most of y'all may not even remember me but i want to just say Hello from Maine and
    i'm still living the life the way it should be! My way!! lol
    P.s.s. I'm looking for friends that will support me even if its on here I'm feeling like I'm going into a whole new world by myself when i usually have someone to go back and talk to or ask questions. So now you guys are my new support system!


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    Hey girl,

    Welcome back ! You were gone but not forgotten.

    I've got to mind my words, but totally get what you were saying about before. Maybe not the best situation ya know ? You just have to live and learn .... then move on. Don't kick yourself. You couldn't have done things any differently.

    Anyway ... big hello from the coast not too far from Bah Habbah.

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    Not the best situation and it does not help that they used me being so young to a disadvantage. He now has changed the company name and ect. and now runs off of what i built for himself. I should of stood up and done the work myself but i thought i was getting help. It is what it is, all i know is that I can be something of a value if someone wants to do me dirty like that! So i can do this again and get back up on my feet one more time and get this lady scrapper back on the map! Thank you, I'm up in the boonies and havent been that way in a good minute! Will have'ta take a trip to just go and see the ocean where i used to live.

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    Well that partnership worked out swell, that bastard got it all, praise the lord.

    Your still a winner, his tax dollars are paying your rent sweetheart.

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    I've got to head out. Only have a couple of minutes.

    It would probably be better not to talk about the former situation.

    Focus on the now ? You've got a whole new life ahead of you. You're a mommy now. Embrace that and move forward !

    The past is the past ... good or bad ... there's no way to change it. Just make it a part of your story without feeling one way or another about it. That's how you find peace and move on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hills View Post
    I've got to head out. Only have a couple of minutes.

    It would probably be better not to talk about the former situation.

    Focus on the now ? You've got a whole new life ahead of you. You're a mommy now. Embrace that and move forward !

    The past is the past ... good or bad ... there's no way to change it. Just make it a part of your story without feeling one way or another about it. That's how you find peace and move on.
    She has plenty of recourse available to her, the father of her child should be court ordered to pay child support.

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    Glad to see you back...

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    Quote Originally Posted by blackgold12 View Post
    She has plenty of recourse available to her, the father of her child should be court ordered to pay child support.
    It's a complicated situation BG. Best that we should avoid that discussion here. (* Hint * Was politely trying to re-direct the conversation. )

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    Quote Originally Posted by hills View Post
    It's a complicated situation BG. Best that we should avoid that discussion here. (* Hint * Was politely trying to re-direct the conversation. )
    She's young women trying to cope with her situation, when was the last time you visited your son, bought him a birthday present or said I love you.

    Yea it's complicated alright, you could man up to the situation and give the gal some financial support along with some morel support and take the time to be part of your sons life.

    Hills do you even know your sons name.

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    If this is going to turn into a child support discussion I will put in my two cents worth.........I'm all for a man owning up to what he has created but certain circumstances put men in a position they cannot crawl out of........For several years I was being charged $500 a month in support and was making $7 per month.......Couldn't do anything about it and ended up over $45,000 in debt.......I am current now and worked out a payment plan but this could have been my demise.......I figure I will pay on this until I hit the grave and hopefully by then my penance will have been served

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    Ummm ... guys ... it's a complicated situation. Please re-direct.

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    Welcome back to the forum from a stay at home dad turned scrapper because it was something I could do while taking care of my lil one. 2 years later(4 yrs old) she just started school and im still scrapping!

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    Quote Originally Posted by mikeinreco View Post
    If this is going to turn into a child support discussion I will put in my two cents worth.........I'm all for a man owning up to what he has created but certain circumstances put men in a position they cannot crawl out of........For several years I was being charged $500 a month in support and was making $7 per month.......Couldn't do anything about it and ended up over $45,000 in debt.......I am current now and worked out a payment plan but this could have been my demise.......I figure I will pay on this until I hit the grave and hopefully by then my penance will have been served
    I took up with a women who had two dependents then made one of my own.

    Her dead beat husband paid nothing, the courts decided I was in loco perentis, in addition to paying child support for my own ended up paying for her dead beat ex's children.

    And this is why I have such a hard on for those who shirk their responsibility's.

    Good on ya for stepping up to the plate.

    The term in loco parentis, Latin for "in the place of a parent"[1] refers to the legal responsibility of a person or organization to take on some of the functions and responsibilities of a parent. Originally derived from English common law, it is applied in two separate areas of the law.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 520 View Post
    Welcome back to the forum from a stay at home dad turned scrapper because it was something I could do while taking care of my lil one. 2 years later(4 yrs old) she just started school and im still scrapping!
    A buddy of mine was left with three dependent girls when his wife ran off, Dave advertised for a woman to give the girls their missing feminine side.

    He choose a university educated woman that had a career, the relationship was strictly platonic as his best interests were for his girls who are all grown up now with family's of their own.

    And their birth mother no where to be found and never as much remembered her daughters on special occasions.

    Would have been a better situation had she left Dave a widower as this girls would have had a better understanding of her absence.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hills View Post
    Ummm ... guys ... it's a complicated situation. Please re-direct.
    Complicated ya say,

    Just be glad that she didnt schedule an appointment with planned parenthood to get rid of your spoor and that someday you may have the opportunity to be part of your sons life. And teach him to be a real man.


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